In the 4 months since the divorce became final and the 6 months since I stopped enabling Xman's financial choices, I have paid my debt down by 50%.
No, I don't get alimony. I do get modest child support, but I spend that directly on son's needs.
What is my secret? Not having to adjust my expenditures based upon Xman's crazy ideas. I know I sound like the bitter ex, but here are some examples:
Xman had hidden accounts when we divorced. I knew this. I didn't know how much were in them, but for 15+ years he had been 'advising' soon-to-be-married or early married acquaintances to keep some $$ hidden. Then before the divorce was final, he purchased a new Harley. and gear. and took his new girl away for the weekend. and bought our son a huge flat screen tv, and... and... and...
But evidently the money has been exhausted.
I was guilted for financial help 2 months ago when Xman decided to buy son a $200 lawnmower to mow the lawn "in case I decided to keep the house". This after I told him I couldn't buy the house - I couldn't afford it.
I was guilted for financial help this week because Xman couldn't make his bills. Yet, he purchased his father a new Stihl chainsaw because he didn't want to spend the $60 to send the old one back. Let's see... $300 vs. $60. hmmm....
In the past, I would have covered these misjudgements. But no more. And by January, I'll be debt-free.
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